I wonder how much a cool attitude towards nudity in the family home when growing up both helps the growing child and also helps the adult child with their relationships with their parents?
Steve's parents are lovely and they have a good relationship but there has always been a slight leaning towards not opening up. His story shared here
https://www.anaturistworld.com/member-blog/45831/a-naturist-family-me-and-my-body-7-learning-to-accept-yourself would have been so much less traumatic if his parents had been more approachable about the body. There are aspects of his family (not so much from Steve) that have been left unsaid and you cannot help but wonder if they had been a naturist family whether those discussions would have taken place and the good relationships would have been much more than that - honest, open and no hidden stories or confused pain.
When I look at my own childhood there was a dangerously unhealthy aspect around nudity and the body from my father's side which maybe a more naturist and natural approach may have prevented.
My mother feared nudity - just as she feared closeness. Her reaction to me once stumbling across her naked coming out of the bathroom when I was about 6 or 7 was beyond sensible reaction. He anger with me - for simply walking across the landing at that point - was over the top considering I was a young girl and she was my mother. But she also held back emotionally and keeps that distance today. Her life is one of falseness - and ironically she doesn't just not go naked but hardly bares a piece of her skin - she reacts badly to the sun but also says she is very private about her body. She wears her privacy as if it is a strength but her inability to be open is a weakness that both damages the ability to have good relationships and opens her up to bad ones.
It may be of no coincidence that the period of time that I thought that my mother was going to be able to have a truly honest relationship with me was also the time when she seemed to be opening up to naturism. Steve, myself and the boys were naked around her quite a lot at that time and she was happy about that and very comfortable. Then one afternoon when it was just the two of us she actually had a naked swim with me in the pool. It had been a period where I felt she was fighting the need she has to hold back - and I felt that given positive time she was going to move forward with her relationship with me and also her naked confidence and enjoy naturism with my whole family. But shortly after that time she started moving in the opposite direction pulling further and further into her self and her fears and pain. To the point now that there is simply nothing real about her, she is an alcoholic and her relationship with me and my family is fake and full of more barriers than a whole warehouse of clothes.
Good parents and healthy relationship can exist beyond naturism - but I wonder how the ability to be naked as a family does have a positive effect on making the whole process easier and more positive.
What do you think?
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Anna ANW
at July 14, 2023 6:03 AM BST