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I love my spouse, but her reluctance to be naked is holding me back from truly enjoying all naturism has to offer. How can I get my spouse to enjoy naturism with me?
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I don't believe you can and it can only be harmful to push it. In my case, she has made it abundantly clear that she is not interested, although she has never shown disapproval in my interest. Our relationship is infinitely more important to me than whether or not she will indulge in social nudity.. So this is our life and we're both happy and in love.
(I have CV'd it in for you - Steve) Thank you, Steve.
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Sam D50
at November 10, 2025 12:55 AM GMT
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As long as each respects the other's choice of clothing, or lack of, then it's a very good start.
Of course it's great that both jump in with both feet but it's like food... we have to respect the other's preferences where choices are present.
The question will be more challenging when it comes to raising kids but that is already another forum topic I think.
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Bottom line is you can't. The most important thing is does she accept your wish to? Sue sometimes does and sometimes doesn't Depending situation. She doen't swim and her genetics do not pre-dispose her to lay in the sun she rapidly does a good impression of a ripe tomato.
That said as a family we live naked, so playing , sleeping, eating, washing are all communal affairs. Is she going to take part in skinny dipping day, no, ut she does sometimes garden naked.
Remember your partner had years and years of faulty programming before you came along. You may never be able to roll that back but the path to social nudity is one that has to be walked as an individual.
btw starting young does help
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I think it would be fascinating if naturists partners could get their textile partners to voice their attitudes somewhere on the forum. Are there Members out there who believe their partners would visit the site, read some blogs and articles, peruse the forum and maybe answer in some topics specifically created for them. Or would their reluctance lead them to not wish to share the site with you?
It sounds to me that Grahame's wife is pretty much part of a naturist lifestyle, at home at least.
There are scales to be measured. Some partners hate the very idea, some are cool but want nothing to do with it, others will go to the beach but will remain partly cover. Some used to enjoy naturism and then pulled away for personal reasons.
We regularly see both men and women partnered by slightly covered partners. At least they are still enjoying the beach and at ease with naked people. Though I do wonder why not just remove that final piece of material. May women are topless and have the most minuscule of thongs on so why not just get rid of it? The non-naturist men who accompany their female or male naturist partner however often wear "big shorts" and you sort of think that must be about a fear of exposure in some way.
When Steve approached me about naturism he was very sweet about it and really explained why he had tried it and why we wanted us to try it and I just thought why not? I trust him and knew that it was a side of life that he wanted us to explore together. Relationships are about compromises and making each other happy. He said if you don't like it then we just forget about it. So I tried it and at first I was nervous and awkward but not against a repeat adventure. The second time I was totally happy and there was no looking back.
Having differences is alright and doing different things and telling each other about it is fun and interesting. But enjoying stuff together is the best and sharing it as a family better still. Leisure time is so precious I don't think either of us would be able to fully appreciate naturism if the other one didn't care for it too.
I think a way forward with reluctant spouses is to encourage them to properly appreciate what naturism is. Then once they learn to trust it as a non-sexual, non-voyeuristic, non-exhibitionist thing offer a deal. "You try naturism and I will try .... with you. Let's both really give it a go and maybe we will end up will two hobbies that we really enjoy together."